Feel Free Again with Cole James

030: Emotional Breakthrough: How One Couple Healed Their Marriage with Grief Recovery

Cole James welcomes husband and wife duo Alfonzo and Gwendolyn Jones to share their powerful transformation story through the Grief Recovery Method. Gwendolyn first discovered the method during a personal season of feeling lost and purposeless. After reading The Grief Recovery Handbook on the recommendation of her pastor, she got certified and experienced a profound emotional breakthrough. Her personal transformation inspired Alfonzo to get certified as well—even though he originally didn’t think he “needed” it.
 
Together, they used the tools not just individually, but to heal their marriage—most notably by completing “relationship graphs” and grief letters for each other, which unearthed years of unresolved pain and brought deep emotional healing. They describe how grief recovery shifted their communication from surface-level and combative to emotionally honest and heart-centered, using tools like active listening, emotional paraphrasing, and intentional vulnerability.
 
As parents, the method helped them radically change how they connect with their children. They started creating safe, open environments where feelings were heard and validated—replacing harmful “be strong” messaging with empathy and emotional tools. Gwendolyn shares how she had to re-learn affection with her daughter, and Alfonzo highlights how seeing grief as 100% real for each person—even if it's just a lost crayon—changed how he parented.
 
The couple now integrates these tools into leadership coaching and everyday life, encouraging others to do the personal work that leads to relational healing and generational change. They emphasize that grief is not limited to death or divorce but includes losses of identity, safety, trust, and more. Their closing message: doing this work personally is essential before we can lead, parent, or love well.
 
Where to find them:
Gwendolyn: GwendolynJJones.com
Alfonzo: TrifectaPrime.com

029: Unlocking Emotional Freedom Behind Bars: A Grief Recovery Story

I’m Cole James, and on this special episode of the Feel Free Again podcast, I sit down with Amanda Sherlock and Mona Rahimi—two amazing grief recovery specialists—and Pratik “Teek” Bhargava, who’s currently incarcerated at the California Men’s Colony. Teek shares how he discovered that grief isn't just about death—it’s about the everyday losses that accumulate behind bars: lost freedom, broken routines, fractured families, and fading hope. His journey with Amanda and Mona’s work has been nothing short of transformative.
 
We dive into how Teek and his fellow inmates have embraced the Grief Recovery Method to become “hearts with ears,” learning to listen and hold space for one another in a place that’s often emotionally barren. Teek draws a powerful comparison to AA’s “singleness of purpose”—in this group, survivors aren’t competing or comparing; they’re simply sharing and healing together. He even shares how participants have begun mentoring new cohorts and fostering trust across yard lines.
 
Amanda and Mona explain how they got permission to bring this work into prisons, describe the powerful ripple effect of grief education, and even celebrate the growing interest among incarcerated men who want access to books and follow-up support. They share that every parole, every transfer, even graduation—these are grief events. This conversation is raw, honest, and uplifting, and it turns the spotlight on a transformative, accessible program that's changing lives behind bars—and beyond.

028: Stop Repeating the Past: The Secret to Lasting Emotional Healing

In this deeply personal episode of the Feel Free Again podcast, I sit down with Tammy Adams, a compassionate and highly skilled grief recovery specialist who shares powerful insights about the transformative effects of addressing unresolved grief. Tammy's journey—from educator and HR professional to certified grief recovery specialist—deeply resonated with me, especially her candid reflections on overcoming repeated life patterns caused by unprocessed emotional pain.
Throughout our conversation, Tammy highlights the profound impact of grief recovery on breaking harmful cycles in relationships, career choices, and personal development. She opened my eyes to the importance of taking full accountability for healing my emotional wounds, which profoundly changed my perspective on both personal and professional levels.
This episode truly underscores that unresolved grief isn't just about loss from death, but about a wide spectrum of emotional experiences we all encounter. One of the most impactful moments of our discussion was addressing the universal emotional toll taken by COVID-19, an event Tammy describes as a global grieving experience. Her clear and empathetic approach provided me with valuable tools and insights to process the unique losses we've collectively experienced, from trust and freedom to financial security and interpersonal relationships.

027: Why the Five Stages of Grief Won't Heal Your Heart

In this episode of the Feel Free Again Podcast, I sit down with Brian Magee, an accomplished grief recovery specialist and former funeral director from Alberta, Canada. Brian shares openly about his journey—from facing significant personal losses to discovering the profound impact of the Grief Recovery Method. Together, we delve deeply into how grief manifests beyond death, exploring its wide-ranging impact on life's significant changes and transitions.
Our conversation also highlights Brian’s innovative approach to integrating grief recovery support within the funeral home setting. We discuss the challenges faced by funeral directors and the hesitations many funeral homes have around adopting new grief support programs.
Brian provides invaluable insights into how effective aftercare not only meets a crucial emotional need in the community but also greatly enhances the reputation and relational bonds of the funeral home within its community. We further address common misconceptions around grief, critically examining the well-known five stages of grief proposed by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, and discuss why a practical, emotionally-driven method often surpasses intellectual approaches in truly helping people heal. This episode emphasizes a clear message: unresolved grief requires active emotional processing, and Brian’s insights offer powerful guidance on how to achieve emotional completion and healing.

026: Are You A Parent Carrying Pain? Grief Recovery Saved My Relationship with My Daughter

Connect with Tammy: https://www.griefrecoverymethod.com/grms/tammy-fleming
In this episode of the Feel Free Again Podcast, I sit down with the remarkable Tammy Flemming, a woman whose life story spans continents, careers, and profound emotional revelations. Trained at the highest level with the Grief Recovery Institute, Tammy unpacks the decades of emotional baggage she carried—and the transformative power of finally facing it.
We explore her journey from Ivy League dropout to full-time missionary, and how unresolved grief silently shaped her relationships—especially with her daughter. Through the Grief Recovery Method, Tammy unearthed the real source of her pain: not just death, but decades of emotional avoidance, especially as a mother navigating pre-menopause, international moves, and personal loss.
I was blown away by Tammy’s raw honesty and depth. She courageously shares how her healing journey didn’t start until she truly looked inward—and how this method helped her reclaim the present. Her story is both gut-wrenching and inspiring. Whether you're a parent, griever, or someone seeking emotional clarity, this conversation will resonate deeply.
Tammy also shares how she’s now helping people process grief in Ukraine and Russia—amid an ongoing war—proving this method has global relevance. Don’t miss the final segment where we discuss how unresolved grief robs us of the present moment—and how healing is possible.

025: What Most Therapists Miss About Grief Recovery

Connect with Gwen: https://www.griefrecoverymethod.com/grms/gwen-russo-cherkovets
As a grief recovery specialist, trainer, and former speech pathologist, I’ve walked the long road of trying to help others without the right tools.
In this episode of the Feel Free Again Podcast, I sit down with Cole James to share the real story of how the Grief Recovery Method transformed both my practice and my life. Before discovering this method, I did everything “right” on paper—offering spiritual counseling, holding space, listening deeply.
Yet the clients kept returning with the same unresolved pain. That’s when burnout hit. What I needed was not more compassion—it was completion. Through this powerful method, I found the structure and emotional tools that traditional therapy never gave me. And once I saw what was possible, I couldn’t turn back.
✅ In this candid conversation, Cole and I dive into:
✅ What makes grief recovery radically different from therapy
✅ Why professionals feel ill-equipped to handle grief
✅ How burnout often signals an emotional blockage in your clients
✅ And how a structured method can help them—and you—heal

024: I Lost Clients to Overdose - What No One Tells You About Grief & Addiction Recovery

As a certified grief recovery specialist, mental health professional, and diversity coach, I’ve spent the last 8 years walking side-by-side with those in addiction recovery—and I’ve learned a truth we don’t talk about enough: Unresolved grief is often the silent root of addiction.
 
In this episode of the Feel Free Again podcast, Cole James and I explore the deeply emotional link between loss and substance use. We discuss the real-life stories behind recovery, the overlooked pain of caregivers, and why so many of us silently carry grief until it breaks us.
 
I also share personal experiences, including:
✅ My late father’s 14-year sobriety journey beginning at age 77
✅ Using food to cope with childhood pain
✅ The moment I almost left this work because of a client’s suicide—and how the grief recovery method helped me heal and return stronger
 
Whether you are in recovery, love someone who is, or work on the frontlines of grief and trauma, this conversation offers a safe space—and tangible hope.

023: Unspoken Goodbyes & Healing: Her Last Words to Her Dying Mom Were an Argument…

If you’ve ever carried unresolved grief and never quite knew what to do with it, this episode is for you. In today’s Feel Free Again Podcast, I sit down with certified grief recovery specialist Kelli Sheumaker, whose personal journey through traumatic brain injury and the death of her mother revealed just how deep grief can run. We talk candidly about the moments she never got to say “I love you,” the medical trauma she endured, and how grief shows up in unexpected ways—even decades later.
 
This conversation unpacks not just the pain, but the power of emotional healing through the Grief Recovery Method. Kelli vulnerability will resonate with anyone who’s experienced loss, chronic illness, or that silent question of “Why do I still feel stuck?” She shares how the recovery process gave her peace with her past and a renewed purpose to help others do the same. We also dive into societal avoidance of death, the emotional impact on children, and why “complicated grief” is often misunderstood.
 
Connect with Kelli: https://www.griefrecoverymethod.com/grms/kelli-sheumaker